Domestic violence impacts women and children alike, while shelters remain inadequate
Two out of five children experience physical abuse, and only one out of three women report incidents of domestic violence. Those who find the courage to seek help often encounter additional challenges. There is a severe shortage of shelters nationwide, with very few available in rural areas. These issues were highlighted in a study involving social workers, police officers, and other essential service providers working to combat this problem. Specialists emphasized the strong connection between the abuse experienced by mothers and the abuse endured by their children.
Domestic violence affects both women and children equally. However, the current assistance system tends to address these issues separately, resulting in fragmented files, institutions, responsibilities, and protocols. The National Agency for the Prevention of Violence is advocating for a paradigm shift toward a more coordinated and unified approach.
“In a society where women and children rely on others financially and in decision-making, we cannot separate violence against women from violence against children. When a case of a child is identified, we must ask about the mother. Conversely, if we identify a case involving a mother, we must inquire about what is happening with her child,” said Maha Damaj, the country representative at UNICEF Moldova.
International experts and representatives from civil society have pointed out several pressing issues, including the lack of support for victims in rural areas and the absence of shelters for families with multiple children.
One woman from a northern locality, raised solely by her grandmother, found herself on the streets with her small child due to domestic violence.
“First, there was verbal violence, then psychological abuse, and in the last three instances, it escalated to physical violence. I finally said no and refused to accept it any longer. It affected my child psychologically; when we arrived here, he was very agitated, always crying, and having hysterical outbursts,” she shared.
The young mother escaped her abusive situation by seeking refuge at the "In the Arms of the Mother" Maternity Center in the capital.
“He made me ask for help because he started throwing us out of the house. I tell other women not to tolerate anything. If they sense that something is wrong, they should take their child—or themselves—and leave,” she advised.
Psychologists note that experiences of verbal or physical aggression can have lasting consequences for both adults and children.
“Typically, people in abusive relationships are manipulated and threatened, which discourages them from seeking help and escaping this vicious cycle. Children may develop behavioral and mood disorders, and their academic performance can suffer,” explained psychologist Irina Postica.
Victims of violence are encouraged to call 112, the Women and Girls Helpline at 0 8008 8008, the "La Strada" Center, or the Women's Law Center at 0 800 77777 for support.
